If you can link something by them I can reconsider. (Not you, you’re in the conversation and we already know your opinion) I’ve just never heard it used like that.
The word “narc” is a slur, that almost always marks out the user as a self-identifying “victim of narcissistic abuse”. It implies a number of incorrect generalizations that have already unfolded quite neatly in this thread. It has definitely become a negative term.
Personally, I would ban all victim lingo. People on “narc abuse” subs use this language to create/enhance their group identity, which is based on a number of incorrect assumptions; “I got really hurt, so my partner is deffo a narcissist”, “all people with NPD, or any degree of narcissism are monsters”, “self-aware narcissists don’t exist”, “all of them are abusers”, just to mention a few.
We are not allowed to post on those subs. I have never met any of those people, certainly never abused any of them, yet if I post in their space, I will get banned instantly, based on the fact that I have a certain personality disorder. There is a very good reason for that; god forbid that a Narcissistic person genuinely interested in dialogue would burst their bubble, disrupt the story they tell each other.
Yet they are free to post on subs that were created to support Narcissists; free to throw about their negative assumptions, demand explanations for their woes, or downright insult us.
I do not enjoy being a punchbag for “victims”, so I would see these discrepancies addressed, and limiting the use of the word “narc” to an appropriate context would be a welcome step in that direction.
FYI most people won’t even know that NPD is a thing (I didn’t until now), and will struggle to empathise with someone apparently being actively hostile. Everyone’s a dick on the internet, and that makes everyone think that everyone else is a dick too. Compiling a list of everyone that’s wronged you and pointing to it every time they say something will not make you happy and will turn people against you. Everyone (regardless of mental state) needs to realise that arguing on the internet just makes you more frustrated. Remember the old internet rule “don’t feed the trolls”; worry about real life people who matter, not faceless usernames who don’t.
Not using slurs is a basic precondition to being a good person. My aim is to give people the information needed to make basically ethical decisions, which means not supporting bigots who use slurs. If certain people are too much slaves to their base emotions, and too little capable of simple reasoning, then I am not responsible for the choices they make to fight for the side of hatred.
That link directs to a post from DroneRights saying that I called them a narcissist to their face. But I said that to you. An account you’re insisting isnt an alternate of DroneRights.
You called me a slur for my mental disorder to my face a couple hours ago. https://lemm.ee/post/20523475
And in another recent post you admitted that you’re fully aware I have NPD, so it was 100% intentional.
you have no idea how much worse that comment you linked makes you look
having a mental disorder doesn’t excuse you from being an asshole, stop wearing it like a badge of honour and get therapy
I’m not being an asshole. I’m saying slurs are bad. I don’t need an excuse to say slurs are bad.
I’m pretty sure narcissist isn’t a slur.
Have you asked:
If you can link something by them I can reconsider. (Not you, you’re in the conversation and we already know your opinion) I’ve just never heard it used like that.
Some people saying not to use mental disorders as insults:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/drawing-the-curtains-back/202204/narcissism-considered-diagnosis-or-easy-insult
https://www.reddit.com/r/narcissism/comments/hiyfu4/is_narc_a_negative_term_do_we_think_its/fwk18hj/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/5lyldh/using_narcissist_as_an_insult_is_ableist/
https://www.reddit.com/r/NPD_Memes/comments/15tirjm/dont_let_anyone_gaslight_you_into_thinking_they/
And some fascists complaining they were called out:
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticAbuse/comments/a8zfg3/is_narc_a_slur/
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/nb2co7/ive_been_accused_of_being_ableist_prejudiced/
I said slur not insult.
Second link in the list.
That’s for others to decide.
FYI most people won’t even know that NPD is a thing (I didn’t until now), and will struggle to empathise with someone apparently being actively hostile. Everyone’s a dick on the internet, and that makes everyone think that everyone else is a dick too. Compiling a list of everyone that’s wronged you and pointing to it every time they say something will not make you happy and will turn people against you. Everyone (regardless of mental state) needs to realise that arguing on the internet just makes you more frustrated. Remember the old internet rule “don’t feed the trolls”; worry about real life people who matter, not faceless usernames who don’t.
Not using slurs is a basic precondition to being a good person. My aim is to give people the information needed to make basically ethical decisions, which means not supporting bigots who use slurs. If certain people are too much slaves to their base emotions, and too little capable of simple reasoning, then I am not responsible for the choices they make to fight for the side of hatred.
That link directs to a post from DroneRights saying that I called them a narcissist to their face. But I said that to you. An account you’re insisting isnt an alternate of DroneRights.
You can’t even keep your own story straight.
Show me a link to where I said I’m not DroneRights. It never happened. You’re just making stuff up because you hate disabled people.