• jagged_circle@feddit.nl
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    25 days ago

    If you dont consent to your poly partner fucking someone else, you’re saying “your body, my choice”

    Thats so fucked, and I can’t believe you’re defending it

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      25 days ago

      You have no conception of how contracts work do you?

      Contracts involve things people aren’t entitled to all the time. Nobody is entitled to have someone else meet them for lunch at 1 pm either. You can’t dictate someone else’s movements that way.

      Oh wait! Unless they agreed to meet you there at 1pm.

      Fascinating, the way promises can turn a lack of entitlement into legitimate entitlement.

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        25 days ago

        This article is literally about changing that contract because its based on an antiquated concept of some old book that claimed it was the word of some mythical creature in the sky

        We’re updating the contract for a reason.

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      25 days ago

      If a poly person is with a monogamous person and wants to sleep with a new partner, end the relationship with the monogamous person. The monogamous person can stay out of the relationship if they know the other person is poly, too.

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        25 days ago

        Sure. I’m talking about a poly person in marriage with a poly person. They shouldn’t be able to be criminalized for fucking someone else if they told their partner about it first.

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      24 days ago

      If you dont consent to your poly partner fucking someone else

      Whoa buddy, drop the assumptions. You’re assuming your partner is poly. Among other things.

      Thats so fucked, and I can’t believe you’re defending it

      I can’t believe you’re defending cheating and then excusing it as “we’re just poly” (Even though you absolutely did not make that clear to begin with, and are now changing the circumstances of your argument. Maybe list out any assumptions you’re using?)

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        24 days ago

        I would never marry anyone who wasn’t poly. The law is the one making assumptions here.

        My point is that it shouldn’t be possible for my spouse to persue criminal action against me for fucking someone else in a poly relationship if we’re married. Thats fucked.

        The law shouldn’t make it not allowed to fuck someone outside your marriage by default. As I said before, thats cool to make it optional like a prenup, if you’d like, but it shouldn’t be the default