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this post was submitted on 21 Aug 2024
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Why did you choose to get a metoidoplasty with no vaginectomy? How's recovery so far
For me, the dysphoria was around not having a penis, rather than having a vagina, so I didn't feel the need for vaginectomy. I'm nonbinary transmasc anyway, and my kind of ideal was to go for "best of both worlds" rather than cis-equivalent. (Also, I knew meta probably wouldn't give me enough size for penetrative sex, and I didn't want to make that otherwise more difficult.)
So far recovery is going well! I'm not in much pain and have been able to waddle around like a penguin from basically when I woke up after the surgery.
Gotcha. Did the surgery end up costing much?
Insurance covered 90% of the total, so I paid about $4000 US for the surgeon and facility fees. The clinic the surgeon works at has good insurance wranglers who made sure my two therapist letters said exactly the right thing to satisfy the insurance company.
yay yippee !! i hope recovery is all okay meow! :>
Glad to hear recovery is going smoothly so far!
Congratulations! That's a fun setup, i hope it works well for you :D
Congrats! How awful is the recovery process so far? I know for top surgery it took me a while to get back to 100% but I was up and able to do some stuff after a few days and could have been back to a desk job after about a week.
So far it's not too bad. It was an outpatient procedure; I could dress myself pretty much when I woke up and walk pretty comfortably later that day. I'm a little stiff and sore, and the bleeding took a while to slow down — there's still spotting, which is apparently very normal — but unless I get an infection I think I'll be pretty much functioning normally soon.
ayyy nice, congrats. one thing i'm curious about is if you'll feel some twinges of dysphoria about sitting to pee still, down the road. i'm in a similar boat to you, re: more dysphoric about the lack of penis than presence of vagina, but i had a bottom surgery consult and it made me wonder if i would regret not being able to stand to pee / ejaculate from my dick, etc
i don't expect you'll regret it, to be clear. just if, down the line, you'll be like. well that would have been nice. or if you'll just be totally unbothered by it
but for now, i hope you're excited and cherishing your new dick! 🎉🎉🎉
I grew up in a family where everyone sat by default, so to me peeing while standing up is less gendered than it is for most people, I think. I'd still choose the ability to do everything your average cis guy can do if I could, of course. I don't yet know if I'll be able to sexually penetrate my partner, but I expect to not be able to and that is a thing I will feel a little sad about. Ejaculating and standing to pee are more "nice to haves" but that doesn't mean I won't occasionally wish I could do them.
My experience of just this last few days, though... looking in the mirror and seeing a tiny but definite penis for the first time was a huge euphoric moment. I've tried prosthetics and they sometimes make the dysphoria worse, making me more aware of what I don't have basically. This is like the opposite, where sure, I don't have all those abilities, but I have a penis! It's familiar and a real organic part of me!
Congratulations, I would love to get bottom surgery but it's too expensive, also I'm not thrilled about the idea of having to take Testosterone, I don't want my voice to deepen or facial hair growth.