I feel more attractive and confident in my body when my body hair is well groomed. Doesn’t need to be clear cut but also I don’t want whoever’s going down on me to deal with a jungle.
The healthiest way to go about it is to just have a conversation with your partner if its a concern at all. For some, one’s answer could be a deal breaker, and for others it’s not a problem. Communication is key here.
Even if you’re a fan of hair, I’m sure the concept of “you need a haircut” is valid to you too, I don’t usually mind either way but once had a FWB who did zero trimming and it was… Not ideal.
Almost everyone does a bit of hedge trimming even if they keep the bush
“Nah, your fingernails don’t need a trim. If she can’t handle your adult man’s untrimmed fingernails inside her, she does not deserve to have sex with you.”
Hair that’s long and overgrown can cause problems just like long fingernails can cause problems. Keeping them trimmed so they don’t is just being considerate of your partner.
Long fingernails digging inside a vaginal canal are not the same thing as a woman letting her genital hair grow to its natural length… one will cause pain and bleeding and possible infections. Other is maybe you’ll get it in your mouth sometimes…
Cutting your hair isn’t “hygine”. You can still keep it clean and without ever doing it. (I know this is an internet forum and it is almost impossible to come as non-antagonistic so genuine appeals are meaningless, but still I’ll try:) Consider introspecing why it feels a fully formed bush feels ‘icky’ to you.
You really seem bothered by this. It comes across as fiercly opposed the the removal of body hair. And I understand the harm i see you trying to oppose.
But ive read 4 or 5 or your responses now and it seems like you are just being argumentative. Which is missed opportunity given your passion on this
From my observers perspective, it is not doing you any favours to just keep telling people they are wrong. It would go a long way to help your cause(hair removal is not a necessity and shouldnt be a forced custom)
A haircut can be a lot of different things cant it? The comic doesn’t state what the end result will be. But it doesnt use the word shave it says haircut. Which is as much about styling as it is about removing hair. As someone who just got a haircut after 5 months of letting it go its own way, i just wanted it trimmed up and looking like i actually care about it because it was a bit wild and out of control. I didnt shave it off. Just needed to shape it to what I think looks good. I didnt do it for anyone elses benefit other than my own opinion. I did it for me to make me feel pretty. And im a hairy ass dude with a fantastic beard who has way more body hair issues than the average person
The idea is no different than if you reversed the places or situation.
But what i wish you were doing was explaining where you are coming from and why you feel so passionately about this opinion. I feel like you have a good message that is not getting out because you are just hammering away at people responding to you with stating your position instead of sharing your view on this and painting a picture of what it looks like where that position is.
If i could see what you see i might gain a new perspective. But im not new to this conversation and i can very few roads to lead me to it again.
And the problem with that is comment sections are not a public event, and there are likely more people who need to see a bigger picture than to already have an opinion. It takes work. It feels tedious and laborious to always have to teach people things you feel you shouldnt have to, but it is worth it. Its worth it to put the effort in so you can by your thankless effort be a mentor for some young or just innocent person finding out about themselves that body hair isnt something to be ashamed of even if you dont like your own body sometimes.
The effect(affect?) i think you want is one i agree with and support is one of loving thyself. Style is a form of expression. Expression is a form of communication more complex than words alone will ever be.
The bottom line is that hygiene is subjective. If a person feels that they need to shave because they come off as cleaner, that’s all it takes to consider it hygiene.
Nah, your genitalia doesn’t need a haircut. If he can’t handle your adult woman’s genital hair, he does not deserve to have sex with you.
If you don’t want to trim, then don’t.
I feel more attractive and confident in my body when my body hair is well groomed. Doesn’t need to be clear cut but also I don’t want whoever’s going down on me to deal with a jungle.
You’ll notice he’s not the one saying this, she is.
Some people just feel more attractive when they are cleaned up down there.
And before you go off about how it’s the patriarchy, etc, I’m one of those people and I’m a dude.
Ah I’ve worked it out.
I think the hair lover is French.
Case closed.
What can you expect from a casual snail enjoyer and frosh leg lover
How about people just do what they feel comfortable doing with their own body hair?
Are you the sex police? Gonna arrest people for trying to please their partners?
Not to be confused with The Sexy Police:
“You’re under arrest! Now check out these buns!”
People can only like what I like. Any deviations will be prosecuted to the first extent of my law.
The healthiest way to go about it is to just have a conversation with your partner if its a concern at all. For some, one’s answer could be a deal breaker, and for others it’s not a problem. Communication is key here.
I take it you’re part of the “if he likes it shaved he’s a pedophile” crowd huh?
I’m just gonna throw out there that I’m a fan of hair, but it ain’t mine to judge or control. People need to chill out a bit lol
Even if you’re a fan of hair, I’m sure the concept of “you need a haircut” is valid to you too, I don’t usually mind either way but once had a FWB who did zero trimming and it was… Not ideal.
Almost everyone does a bit of hedge trimming even if they keep the bush
What are basing this on? You can wash your hair just like everywhere else during regular showers.
I’d like to implore you to consider why these aesthetic standards of what’s ideal are what they are and why they exist
So, you grow your head hair down to your knees, then? Never cut your fingernails?
They are what they are because people find it more attractive.
You don’t need to go down to the hardwood, but you should still trim your shit.
Unless that’s what you’re into, then you do you.
“Nah, your fingernails don’t need a trim. If she can’t handle your adult man’s untrimmed fingernails inside her, she does not deserve to have sex with you.”
Hair that’s long and overgrown can cause problems just like long fingernails can cause problems. Keeping them trimmed so they don’t is just being considerate of your partner.
Long fingernails digging inside a vaginal canal are not the same thing as a woman letting her genital hair grow to its natural length… one will cause pain and bleeding and possible infections. Other is maybe you’ll get it in your mouth sometimes…
It can cause a rash through friction
You’re more likely to get friction from stubble than grown and trim hair.
I’ve rarely seen anyone on Lemmy get nuked this hard for a bad take. I’m in awe.
2 upvotes and 202 downvotes: https://lemmy.world/comment/9137092
Ah damn. The down chain denouement of that one hits too close to home.
They have two downvotes and you’re the only reply that I can see.
I was referring to the parent comment. Sorry for the ambiguity
Makes sense.
Anybody that says this doesn’t eat out enough. Licking hair suuuucks.
tbh I never mind taking a moment to find the treasure through the forest, but to each their own
You don’t need to lick the hair. Part the hair then get in there. #lifehack
I mean, you still get the stray pube that ends up in the mouth, but that’s part of the game.
Their comment is at -69. He 69’s at a negative value.
I bet you thought you were so woke for this.
We’re gatekeeping hygiene now?
You name a gate, the internet is keeping it
Cutting your hair isn’t “hygine”. You can still keep it clean and without ever doing it. (I know this is an internet forum and it is almost impossible to come as non-antagonistic so genuine appeals are meaningless, but still I’ll try:) Consider introspecing why it feels a fully formed bush feels ‘icky’ to you.
You really seem bothered by this. It comes across as fiercly opposed the the removal of body hair. And I understand the harm i see you trying to oppose.
But ive read 4 or 5 or your responses now and it seems like you are just being argumentative. Which is missed opportunity given your passion on this
From my observers perspective, it is not doing you any favours to just keep telling people they are wrong. It would go a long way to help your cause(hair removal is not a necessity and shouldnt be a forced custom)
A haircut can be a lot of different things cant it? The comic doesn’t state what the end result will be. But it doesnt use the word shave it says haircut. Which is as much about styling as it is about removing hair. As someone who just got a haircut after 5 months of letting it go its own way, i just wanted it trimmed up and looking like i actually care about it because it was a bit wild and out of control. I didnt shave it off. Just needed to shape it to what I think looks good. I didnt do it for anyone elses benefit other than my own opinion. I did it for me to make me feel pretty. And im a hairy ass dude with a fantastic beard who has way more body hair issues than the average person
The idea is no different than if you reversed the places or situation.
But what i wish you were doing was explaining where you are coming from and why you feel so passionately about this opinion. I feel like you have a good message that is not getting out because you are just hammering away at people responding to you with stating your position instead of sharing your view on this and painting a picture of what it looks like where that position is.
If i could see what you see i might gain a new perspective. But im not new to this conversation and i can very few roads to lead me to it again.
And the problem with that is comment sections are not a public event, and there are likely more people who need to see a bigger picture than to already have an opinion. It takes work. It feels tedious and laborious to always have to teach people things you feel you shouldnt have to, but it is worth it. Its worth it to put the effort in so you can by your thankless effort be a mentor for some young or just innocent person finding out about themselves that body hair isnt something to be ashamed of even if you dont like your own body sometimes.
The effect(affect?) i think you want is one i agree with and support is one of loving thyself. Style is a form of expression. Expression is a form of communication more complex than words alone will ever be.
Why does an unshaven man with long hair look like a street alcoholic? Asking the important questions.
The bottom line is that hygiene is subjective. If a person feels that they need to shave because they come off as cleaner, that’s all it takes to consider it hygiene.
It’s no different from shaving your legs or face.
Because we’re not fucking chimps, so I’d rather not go to bed with one.
Also, yes – it is antihygienic. No matter how long you spend washing a hairy part of your body, it’ll always be cleaner without hair.
Right, unfunny at best. Natural is better anyway
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I’d bet 10 bucks you’re gross as fuck