So I’m a 35 year old male in a group where me and this girl joke around. She’s a bit “dominate” I guess and tries to be in control. However I don’t really take shit from people and will keep talking if she tells me to stop talking and say what I want. She talks about wanting to bang. Apparently me giving her shit (which I do with all of my friends) and not putting up with her means I’m flirting…am I flirting?
Also she keeps saying she “would me eat me alive” I honestly have no idea what that means, so if anyone knows please let me know.
“Would eat [person] alive” = sex. More specifically the type of sex that satisfies a primal instinct, just like a hunger; “I got this urge, this craving, and I need to satisfy it, and you look delicious”. What she’s saying is that she’d fuck you dry. This sounds genuine for me, based on your account, but keep in mind that there’s a chance that she’s just joking around.
You are not flirting. Specially since you’re behaving towards her the same way as you’d behave towards others (“I don’t really take shit from people”).
The big main question here is: do you want sex with her?
If you want sex, you need to discover if that’s what she wants too; then some flirting could be good here. Someone said to tell her “prove it”, I think that it’s a great way to lead it this way; and if she’s just joking she’ll likely back down, without too much harm.
If you don’t want sex, and you feel uncomfortable with her behaviour, a simple “this is unfunny, could you stop it?” might work, without making her lose too much face. If you don’t want sex, and you don’t feel uncomfortable with her behaviour, just… keep doing it as usual?
REMINDER: those things are heavily culture-dependent, so take any advice from the internet with a grain of salt. Including mine.