I am 25(M) and never even touched hand of opposite sex, at this point i am kinda sure that im going to be alone in my life, but i just cant get over it. I am ugly and skinny, and as for recent started going bald. Have some heart issues so no heavy physical work. I have no chance. So i wanted to move on from this state of mind, and just focus on work and hobbies. How can i do so? Do you have any advice you can share?

  • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    4 days ago

    ugly

    Thats okay! Lots of people of all genders are!

    skinny

    So you’re not fat?

    bald

    Patrick Stuart. No excuse.

    heart issues

    Sucks. Sympathies. How does that relate?

    no heavy physical work

    I don’t understand why this is in here

    how can i just focus on

    Okay imagine meeting yourself.

    You really want to like this guy. What do you focus on? What’salmost there?

    Alternatively: hire a sex worker

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      4 days ago

      heart issues mean i cant go to gym and start lifting and stuff, so cant get in shape, im trying to do calistenics but they are not that good for getting big muscles

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        I mean, I’m not a doctor, but isn’t cardio recommended for those with heart issues to strengthen the heart? Of course depending on the severity would determine the activity level, but I can’t imagine many doctors recommend sitting around all day for your health.

        Also, most women do not like big muscles. Men do. The people that compliment a bros body are other gym bros 99% of the time. Average women do not care about big muscles. Even if that was a deterrent for them, it just makes it easier for you. Who wants someone that vain anyway

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      Sex workers are expensive.

      That said, the right sex worker can be an amazing, wonderful experience. You’re not paying just for sex, and maybe not even for sex at all. Moreover, sex workers tend to be very non-judgemental about pretty much everything, as long as you’re clean and non-abusive; they’ve seen just about everything, and can make most things work in one way or another. One that I’ve spoken to said that it was pretty common for clients to have performance anxiety; although a lot of clients think they want sex, what they want is sexual contact with someone, and that’s not exactly the same thing. Sex workers are common and relatively easy to find if you’re a straight male, a gay man, or a lesbian. It will be much harder to find a sex worker if you’re a straight woman.