Dads

Up to much this week?

Me personally not much but my son is enjoying drumming and karate. Not at the same time though that would be funny to see.

"....I'm hungry"

"Son, you've been moaning that you're hungry ages before tea, then barely touched your tea saying you're full, and now you're hungry again 20 minutes later. You can finish the tea that's still on the table."

"No. Daaad? I'm hungry"

Hi Dads,

I made a post over in !fedigrow@lemm.ee about possibly consolidating the many dad groups down to just one (at least for now) to encourage activity.

The general consensus was that we focus discussion over at !fatherverse@midwest.social because, among some other reasons, it’s the only community that seems to have an active mod.

I hope you’ll join me in posting over there!

I hope you all have a great day!

For me I think it would to have a full enough English breakfast with the family, a mug of proper coffee, where I don't have to make any of it.

Then selfishly I'd love to spend most of the day on my own without doing any chores or being constantly nagged: watch some F1 if it were to be on, read my book on the sofa, enjoy a small beer (Tiny Rebel, Clwb Tropica).

Then in the late afternoon, go out for some food for some decent pub food or an Indian.

What about you?

First born nipper of seven weeks is well for which I count my blessings. Fresh challenges for daddy though: I don't have the emotional and physical comfort from my girlfriend that I had become accustomed to. Obviously, she is looking after a baby for everything she's worth, with me right behind her. We're breastfeeding. Circumstances conspired for me to get away for a night out a week ago - for the first time - with my best friend and it was wonderful. I was a lot less stressed afterwards and had a lot more to give the next day. But it also reminded me of the time before we had our baby; fun, sex, freedom, all that jazz. We managed to have some rushed sexy time a few weeks ago (thanks grandpa), a couple of brief cuddles and a couple of limited heart-to-heart chats but really I feel like I'm basically just a cook, potwash, caretaker and babysitter. Whilst being hyper-focussed our baby, she also tries her best not to overload me, which I'm grateful for. But I'm not getting much love, care, understanding or respect from anywhere at the moment. Nice moments with my daughter just about keeps me in the game tbh. Do any of you recongnise this? Can you offer any light at the end of the tunnel, recommend what to do? I'm feeling very strapped in. Thanks

Keen to hear any novel ideas (or just the humdrum of your weekend).

Planning on watching Raiders of the Lost Ark and / or Star Trek Voyager with the 10 year old myself. Going on a decent hike and playground with the gang also in the mix.

The usual sports stuff.

Shift handover with mum is at 2am, and it looks like the bab is going to take it to the wire tonight.

There isn't, as far as I can tell, anything actually wrong. The mite just doesn't want to sleep...

We're currently looking to start a family, so I thought I'd hit up YT for some advice as a male and the priority skew is mental. The most important thing is having a boy, apparently. Not tips for being supportive, how to help your partner, how to deal with anxieties about money and time.

Bonus feed

Dad's of Lemmy could you share some good advice for someone just starting a family please :D

I was cuddling with my 20 month year old daughter, who's vocabulary is limited to just "dad" and "hot", on our bed the other evening watching Snail on the Whale, when all of a sudden, after 10 minutes of complete silence, in her cute little voice she randomly babbles: "die bitch". My poker face skills were seriously put to the test.

It's been a fun four years since I last had to have these around the house....but alas it's time to bring the potty out once more.

Hopefully he takes to it as well as his sister. I am not confident.

This is something I've always struggled with and I think it's put my daughter in a spot where she's very reluctant to do anything by herself.

Don't get me wrong, she plays well with others and her younger brother, but when he's not available she basically just wants to play with me rather than going off on her own and playing by herself.

Now I don't mind, but I wouldn't mind a bit of...not playing time but also I'm worried it's going to affect her going down the line.

Thoughts?

How has your week been? How are the kids? What's going on and what have you got planned?

Welcome to Saturday Moanings, your safe place to vent, moan and otherwise just....have a good whine about the world, your household and everything in between.

Which makes me wonder. Dad's of Lemmy...what's the worst advice you've ever received about parenting?

My eldest is screaming because she didn't get as many eggs as she thought she would. Thanks Bluey.

How's your weekend going?

My 2yo has one night with kind of a blue hour every other week, where he wakes up in the night and is just completely awake for 1-2,5 hours. Wanting to read books, maybe snack a bit.

They’re more common for him when there’s something up (milestones like learning a lot new words, when he learned to walk, teething, …)

Do any of you experience them? How do you handle this? We manage okay with keeping the light low, reading books that he can choose, but otherwise enforced staying in the bed.

Just gone 2 weeks past the due date for our first baby...

Everything seems to be perfectly fine; plenty of movement, scans all good, mum-to-be well and had some 'jelly' discharge today and yesterday. But we (mostly mum) have been struggling to relax and trust it.

After friends and family constantly checking in for updates and stirring us up we turned our phones off the other day, which helped a lot. Today mum sent a message to a bunch of them asking them to lay off until she contacts them.

All was good until this afternoon when she spoke to a midwife who said "if you get reduced movements come in immediately." That set her off again and since then she's been fretting on mumsnet and reading a book about it. I'm finding it hard to help her to relax. She's really worried about missing a crucial piece of information and making a bad move somewhere. I don't want her to be in anxiety.

For my part, I've actually been getting more chilled out since the due date for some reason. For a few months I was going hell for leather to get everything ready, had a couple of weeks or so around the due date of epic suspense and now it's almost hard to take seriously that it's about to happen.

We don't want an induction out of pure impatience and psychodrama and, like I said, bump is fine.

Maybe this is just a rant but do you guys have any experience or reflections on this?

Many thanks

Good things bad things. Feel free to vent!

We just made pizza together woop woop!

Moanings fellow Dad's. Hows life?

I've had the week off work and despite it being a nonstop exhausting battle to the death with two young kids...I've had a really nice time with them both. In short: fuck work for robbing me of that time with my kids.....

At the same time my partner vowed to take the kids out for a few hours today so I'm looking forward to a bit of Me time.

How's your week been?

Just spent £18 (yes EIGHTEEN) to take my Son to the softplay for two hours of off-peak play.

What in the hell is going on.

Example: I'm awful when it comes to the kids waking up throughout the night. It's not so much that I don't deal with it well, cause I do, but more that the prospect of it causing significant anxiety in me.

It's something I'm working on every single day, but still something that gets the better of me at times, especially now I've got a school age kid who's coming home sick every few days.

Where do you feel like you need to improve as a parent?

Well done on making the weekend. I guarantee that in 3-4 hours, when you're on your 30th 'Daddy can I?' if the day you'll be wishing you were at work.

Anyway. Thinking of making this a weekly thing. What do we think about that? A chance to let off some steam and generally just vent about our kids, the role of Dad or the wider world at large.

What's grinding your gears in your world right now?

I've finally got my daughter's party tomorrow. Despite handing out the invites some six weeks ago we're still getting people who are accepting the invite (do these people not check their childrens bags?). I think we've got everything in order, but I won't lie...I can't wait for it to be over and done with. I'm stressed, Mummy is stressed, the entire endeavour has cost £300 all in and suddenly the offer of financial help from my parents blew away like the flame atop a birthday candle.

How's your week been/going/expected to go