Writer, poet, creative dabbler, geek, cycling and star trek fan. Tends to ramble on about things she likes.

(the username was a suggestion from a url generator for a writing related website, and I immediately made it my nickname all over the internet)

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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • This could be me. I first really fell in love in my thirties. Before that I had book boyfriends. Characters who I related to because of how they were written.

    I didn’t know what aromantic/asexual was at the time, but they both fit me. I’m now married to a man who is my best friend and who accepts me as I am.

    And being aro/ace doesn’t mean that I don’t have feelings. I do. I just have no idea whatsoever on how to express them and still feel like me, I guess?




  • Came here to answer PTerry too. I cherish his books (going to re-read them all again soon). I love the way he gave the fantasy genre an unadulterated joy. His books are the only ones that can make me cry with laughter, even on trains where I try to behave 😀 Also, he’s the only author who made me want to read footnotes 😂

    The world got a little darker when he died.









  • I once managed to trip over a 5 cm metal ledge that I only noticed when I kicked into it while walking into a parking garage.

    I fell over, fell on a knee that was just healed after another less stupid fall and scraped both hands badly too when I tried to break my fall.

    So stupid!

    Oh and it was after a concert and there were a lot of people present just watching me get up, crying in pain.

    So it was my most embarrassing one too.


  • There definitely is a difference. A gut feeling aka intuition comes without emotion. It just is like a knowing something for sure but not knowing why.

    I trust my gut feelings implicitly. My emotions? Not so much. Emotions are always fleeting. There one minute, gone the next. Anxiety replays old fears time and time again.

    When I think about or see rollercoasters for instance, I immediately am afraid. When I ask myself why, I remember instantly what I felt when I had an asthma attack in the middle of a rollercoaster ride. That fear replays as something new but isn’t.

    I’ve read a lot about emotions and emotional wellbeing, I guess that’s why I’ve learned to tell the difference


  • When I look back on my life, I always regret things I did out of fear or anxiety or any other emotions.

    Trusting my gut, however, always led to the best for me in the long run.

    In your case, did you follow your gut when heading home?

    Also, your gut feelings are maybe muddled by emotions about the breakup, which is logical.

    So give yourself some time to weigh your options and let your family and friends help you as well?