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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I ended up getting fired for calling out all the sexism, racism, homophobia, favourtism and abusive managers. The then new covid policies ramped up everyone’s negative traits and I couldn’t ignore it any more.

    I ended up speaking with the corporate HR about the situation and they made an honest effort to help me but I was fired before I got a chance to speak with a very high up person.

    I got a lawyer involved and while not much difference was made after the settlement, I somehow forced the HR manager into early retirement. It amazes me considering my goal was only to get her into a work behavior training course. I never knew such pettiness could accomplish so much.

    All my co-workers shat all over my efforts for the 10 months I was engaged with all of that at the workplace. Also received a fair amount of hate from my co-workers after I got fired too which was neat.






  • The actual router rented out by the service provider. I don’t think they would be happy with me messing with their property.

    I also lived somewhere else where I didn’t have access to the main router so I use the extender as my personal network for file transfers, a few lights with a couple switches and my terrarium thermostat. If anything happens to the main router, I can just turn my extender into an access point and still have my personal network.

    TP-Link requires an account to use my own extender which annoys me. Their app redirects my connection to my extender through their cloud service. It’s not my VPN because I can still connect through the browser. Seems shadey and I don’t like having the account already.







  • I also use task.org and have found a nice set of customization options that works for me.

    Because I’m juggling different tasks with different priorities, I sort by immediacy and importance. Anything time sensitive has dates and alarms attached to it. Any tasks I wish to do currently or the next day is always moved to ‘HighPriority’ including any appointments.

    Medium and low priority stuff are things that have distant due dates or no due dates.

    I also use colours to visually show priorities I set for the day as well as adding comments to help add any extra context. Keeping titles simple is important for me to keep my data visually accessible.

    Most important is that I keep a widget on my home screen so that I always see what my tasks. Any step between seeing my tasks and staying on top of my tasks is a chance for something to be forgotten. It took me nearly half a year to get into the habit of using this app to organize myself but has helped me a lot.

    I also have a couple more lists for shopping and repeated reminders to help me stay on track too.

    Hopefully this is a good example of how someone can use these tools for themselves.








  • I joked with my last girlfriend that she would have had more success flirting with a wall. She tried to sit on my lap at one point and I still never got the hint.

    Flirting is such an ambiguous game where you talk and act around being interested while never explicitly saying you’re interested. It’s similar to how people talk to each other using colourful phrases without meaning to say something. For example, “state of the art” is such an empty phrase to express modernity. Modern art, modern technology, modern science, modern standard of living could all be “state of the art.” Flirting, like modern language, is so ambiguous that it’s a confusing mess for me to navigate.

    She did eventually learn to be more direct with me but still got annoyed because I didn’t flirt with her. While it didn’t work out with her, it helped me understand that I’d rather be with myself than to try and play a game that was designed around ambiguity. If someone is interested in me and is direct about it, I will be far more receptive to see where things go. Being direct is a great sign of compatability for me. Honesty about one’s self is also a a great indicator of a good person too.

    I realized a long time ago that I a higher standard for who I want to be with so I never really pursued a relationship even though I’d like to be in one. The hardest part about that choice is dealing with the judgement and shaming that comes from others for not being in a relationship.




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    I ran into an issue involving just this problem a few years ago. I met someone while I was living abroad. We fell in love but we both had to go back to our respective countries eventually. We tried a long distance relationship for a short whole but agreed it wasn’t going to work out so we just remained good friends and spoke often to each other over video call for a number of years.

    When we first met, I found it super easy to talk with her because I was able to read her emotions from her facial expressions. She had a very expressive face which made it easy for me to understand subtext with her compared to other people. When we started talking over video call, I was still able to read her face so the conversation quality didn’t drop any noticeable amount.

    About half way into 2020 she moved to another country and wanted to have voice calls as her living conditions changed. Between standard voice quality loss in modern technology, my brains voice audio processing issues (voices in noisy backgrounds are muffled or garbled but I can hear a coin drop in a noisy automated manufacturing plant) and the loss of using video chat felt like I couldn’t talk or understand her anymore. I was using more mental energy to talk with her.

    Without video, I could no longer read her face. I could no longer understand her. She did not want to express her feelings verbally to help me understand things which didn’t help. It was a very confusing experience at the time because I didn’t understand what was happening until I was able to piece it together at a later time.

    Turns out I hate phone calls because I can’t read a person’s face to help build extra context about what a person is saying. I may not always get context right in face to face conversations but any little bit of information really helps. Facial expressions, body posture, tone and whatever else a person does while talking is all super useful information for me and a phone call strips all of that away.

    Eye contact is pretty bad but I’m more self accepting of bad eye contact. The loss of all those visual cues due to a phone call is stressful for me.


  • The supervisor in question definitely trash talked all of his “subordinates” but I don’t think it was particularly effective in this instance. He is past retirement age and his interpersonal skills are completely lacking which made him universally hated among workers and management. But he always said yes to management. So that makes him a useful idiot.

    If I worked in the office, I could definitely see this tactic being more effective. It was very common to see trade supervisors battling it out with other trade supervisors. The workers were all united through misery.

    The majority of the trades people I worked with were hyper focused on their masculinity by focusing their lives around marriage, children, cars, property and expensive things to express themselves. All those things require money. The people I worked with always needed money.

    So when all the answers to your problems is more money, how do you understand and treat someone whose motivations are not driven by money? How do you react when someone challenges authority and is still not motivated by money? Even when I plainly tell them why I am acting the way I am, they truly have a difficult time understanding me because money is so important to them.

    They also believe that change is impossible so I’m an idiot for trying. Personally, there’s nothing more motivating to me than being told I can’t do something.


  • Reading articles like these really makes me believe I am autistic. Fortunately I have a doctor appointment soon to see about a proper diagnosis.

    I was terminated a year ago from my last job for speaking out against the abusive behaviour of management as well as all the hate and bigotry from the tradespeople working on the workshop floor. That didn’t go over well so I went to corporate and was assisting them with an investigation into the abuse at my company. Unfortunately that investigation had to be halted as my company fired me conveniently after I made a call to the employee hotline about all the abusive behaviour. I was advised to call the hotline by corporate so they weren’t too happy with my company. So unhappy that they refused to represent them at the labour board regarding my wrongful termination case.

    I think what was interesting about the whole experience was that many of my coworkers could not comprehend that I did all this to help my fellow coworkers. I wanted change so we could all be treated with dignity. Even now with the lawyer involved, they think I’m in it for the payout. I do not care about the money. I want change. I want accountability. Fortunately I have a couple people in my life that understand that and are encouraging me to follow what I think is right. Everyone else thinks I’m an idiot and there are no words to describe how confusing that truly is.