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I don’t have trouble explaining. I keep it high level and generic because 99 times out of 100, people are just making small talk and want to know just enough about you to categorize you.

I like the various mythologies for psychopomps; Anubis, Charon, grim reapers, Azrael, Vanth, valkyries, etc.

Get yourself a Lemmy app that lets you tag users. Boost does for free, I’m told some others do within their premium tier.

This person can now be tagged so I know their vibe before deciding whether or not to engage. Thanks for the heads up.

Ever had a spicy margarita?

Such a good addition to my liquor shelf. It is a liquor and if one likes spice, it opens another layer of variation to margaritas, Manhattans, Palomas, negronis, and so many more.

Figure out how to make and keep friends. It only gets more difficult as people are out of school, have their own families, have less time for short-notice adventures, etc.

At the same time, figure out what you want in a friend that is worth investing in to you. Not every friend is worth keeping as we all naturally grow in different directions.

Same. I have very cautiously taken some recommendations from my brother and liked them. But for every one I liked, there were 100 I didn’t and the online weirdos who got way too intense about them.

That’s Disney princess level right there.

State College in the late 00s. For sure we stayed up late, solving the world’s problems (theoretically) as only young, not-yet-jaded people can. There were also people who couldn’t go three days without getting blackout drunk and I tended not to be good friends with them due to lack of common interests.

I also didn’t meet a single Jewish person until after I graduated college, there just isn’t much of a Jewish population where I grew up, so I’m deeply skeptical of that theory.

You’ve expressed no reason to change, so yes, stay the same until there’s a reason to spend millions of dollars and upend established systems.

Because I don’t see a reason to change. And changing would cost a lot of money and effort and impact. You’re the one proposing a change - why?

No. Why should we?

Beautiful! Without sharing more details than you are comfortable with, where is this?

Found within my own home/possessions, a jolly rancher hard candy.

Out in the wild, a geocache. I go searching for them intentionally on occasion, but I also just spot one while I’m not looking and those are my fave. Especially the really tiny ones, “oh, that bolt on that stop sign looks a little weird. Hey, it’s a nano cache!”

I also go hiking a lot and it’s always fun finding plants I have high confidence that they are edible. I cooked up quite a bit of wild fern this spring, now it’s berries and mushrooms.

I’ll stop helping at a friend’s boundary, but depending on the situation, I might be stubborn and tell them when I think they’re wrong.

First to mind, a friend whose boyfriend was abusing her. She came to my place for help and I suggested we talk to some of the expert resources available for people being subjected to domestic violence. Neither of us really knew how to proceed safely, so my pitch was just talking to them would be a good start. She decided she just wanted to go home to him and that “it would probably be fine, she had just overreacted”. Of course I didn’t force her or call a DV hotline on her behalf, but I let her know going back to him was a bad idea and she could just stay at mine.

He beat the shit out of her. Again. And from that the cops got involved, whether she wanted them to or not. I wish she’d taken my suggestion, but I couldn’t make that choice for her.

I’m pretty darn explicit when I invite a person over to help with beer what it will entail; lots of cleaning, wear comfy clothes that can get wet and dirty, there will be heat and weird smells, and a small amount of physical labor. Still want to come? Cool. If not? Swing by in 4-6 weeks to enjoy a beer with me after it’s fermented and carbonated.

And I never invite more than one, maybe two people. Anymore than that and folks are just standing around, unable to participate. If you have a genuine interest in teaching on your end, and a genuine interest to learn from a friend or two, I would recommend changing your approach to how you plan these events and try again. It sounds fun but one-teaching-a-group sounds like very challenging logistics.

And/or the socialization. Maybe the intention to listen and learn was there, but overcome by the excitement of socializing with friendly people.

I throw them in a box and never use them again. My USB cable box is a rats nest of at least a hundred cables. Why? Because I might need them some day. Even those stupid mini-Bs and UC-E6 for cameras that broke a decade ago. No labels necessary, just procrastination.

If a friend invited me over and they launched into an unsolicited cooking lesson, I would think they are a pretentious twat, lol. There’s always context of course, but I’m not looking for friends who push their knowledge on me without my invitation.

Mutual interests, or expressed interest to learn more in either direction, groovy. One way info dumping, nope.

Listen I brew beer. It can get kinda repetitive and boring. Sometimes I invite friends over to keep me company and I don’t lecture on sanitization and chemistry because that’s not what they came for. The occasional friend does want to learn about brewing, they express that wish, and then I explain some things to them. Some friendships are good for the former, some for the latter, and it’s on you to navigate which is which.