Damn inflation is everywhere now, even the transcendentals :'(

I’m moving in with a trans roommate soon, and I’m going to follow her lead. Basically make lots of connections in the local queer and kink communities, where people tend to be more open-minded. Put yourself out there, attend events, engage, take chances, be a part of the community.

Reconsider your options and desires, experiment. I am close to starting my first polycule. Five years ago, I wouldn’t have believed that. Really exciting time.

I will have sex with cis people, but I suspect my heart can only truly belong to other trans people <3

Do you want the total war?

Do you want it, if necessary, more total and radical than anything that we can yet today even conceive?

-Bibi Goebels, basically

Oh yeah haha. More than one moment.

Why did I hate shopping for clothes? So much that I only did so 2-3 times over a decade.

Why did getting dressed feel so wrong? Why couldn’t I ever picture myself with a clothing style?

Never wanted to talk? Never wanted to be seen? Never wanted to dance? Never wanted to be touched?

And then I realized I was trans, literally all that stuff changed. I’m sure there is so much more too. It’s pretty wild how little I lived before, and pretty exciting how much I can live now!

Why stop there? Shut it all down. Pull the plug.

Filthy darling

Wtf. I came here to make this same comment.

Thought I’d be super clever haha. Take my upvote instead

Weird, because my experience with science and mathematics is that everything I learned only leads to more questions. I personally preferred taking a small chunk of that knowledge and using it to do real-world stuff which was always surprisingly complicated but satisfying. An engineer that “guesses” is not a very good one IMO lol

OK but electromagnetics is totally magic.

That is what my therapist says. It’s true, and it’s rational way of looking at things.

But damn. When I think about living alone, and I see and hear so many people who live with their s/o or roommates, I don’t care in how many other ways their life may be a dumpster fire. Some needs are just basic and common to practically everyone (even if they don’t realize that). Just one example - my life has many… deficiencies.

I’m working on it. Tomorrow I meet a local trans woman who I might move in with as a roommate <3

It really sucks. We have a great dynamic and she has helped me so much over the last year, words can’t express.

Lack reading comprehension?

I think it’s great. My block-list is filling out nicely. Hope the trolls keep exposing themselves in such brazen careless fashion :)

Yeaaah, people will say “takes months” as a conservative estimate. I was super sore at 3 weeks lol and it really never stopped (the line between sore and tender is admittedly blurry).

Some things come and go. Especially those of a sexual nature. I’ve had 6 mo periods where for whatever reason, my genitals just did not function like normal at all. Then it all returns. Weird.

Indeed scent, texture, moisture, sensitivity and even coloration down there have completely changed for me. I started HRT at 37, so I had plenty of time to discover what my body was like before. And it’s very different now. I would say much closer to my AFAB partner whose body I have also had much time to explore.

Wooow I never made that connection!!

Indeed I have been frustrated for years over my sudden propensity for dropping things. I think there has also been a change in coordination/spatial awareness for me.

I wonder if this also factors into the increased difficulty of opening lids? No matter how much force I apply, I can’t move them without adding a grippy texture.

Honestly I think that’s a large portion of it.

They know if they treat us with respect, just let us exist, we’ll do so much better. And it’s our own choices and decisions that lead to that happiness. We face an obstacle and despite odds can overcome it.

But we’re dealing with some thoroughly miserable, sociopathic individuals IMO, who can’t feel good until they know someone else hurts. They need targets, scapegoats – and here we are overcoming centuries of stigma. They see our gains as their losses, when in reality we can all do better.

The more I think about it, this is the only explanation that makes sense for the irrational fear and hate toward trans people.

My partner has to take Xanax before anything involving a needle, and also lie down instead of sitting. Otherwise they pass out. Don’t expect to go your entire life without getting poked. It’s going to happen, so you should find some way of managing that (not easy, I know :/)

Amazon always hiring. McDonald’s always hiring. Hell just about every service industry employer is hiring here.

My advice: make sure he has other interests and socializes.

I was obsessed with coding from age 7, and now wish I had spent that time otherwise, more being a “normal” kid and less time sitting alone giving orders to a damned computer. Once I reached my mid-twenties the joy died in the realities of the job market, and now I can’t even think about that crap anymore.

You know what I enjoy now? Playing a guitar. Didn’t start until age 30, and it was like a revelation.

Sorry I didn’t answer your question. I still think any parent who wants to “get their child started” on something early should heed my advice and experience. I am for real a walking, talking (sometimes) warning.