It’s relatively reasonable to expect a person to lie, it’s a bit less reasonable to expect two people to lie, it’s even less reasonable to expect someone to lie in a professional context where their livelihood depends on them not being discovered to be lying.

It makes a certain sense when you look at it that way from an employer’s perspective.

Of course, like you probably understand, it doesn’t make any sense after all, because in the end if you go to a doctor and lie about being sick (symptoms), the doctor is neither lying nor professionally liable and the whole thing is just an additional hurdle to go through.

But that hurdle is also part of the point to reduce the convenience of lying. And I’m absolutely sure that this additional hurdle has prevented someone somewhere from calling in sick while they aren’t.

Again of course, that likely hasn’t resulted in more work being done, because obviously the employee had a reason to lie about being sick. But whatever, I’ll stop now.

What to do with it is to act understanding and empathetic with people like that instead of standoffish and hostile. You still insist on the better way of doing things, but there’s no actual need to attack anyone that doesn’t support the better way of doing things, even if their reasons aren’t rational or even morally questionable/bad. It only serves to further entrench them in their positions, while the opposite might have a chance to happen in a more cooperative approach.

Funny how you made exactly the comment the article predicted within itself xD

Why would you ask questions when it’s the same day? Like, don’t all sicknesses start being noticed one specific day and thus you take sick leave starting that day? That’s literally the only way it makes sense at all

Seems like you’re an asshole boss to me

Maybe you should explain your intention instead of making cryptic belittling remarks.

No one insulted you. They commented on the fact that you don’t understand reality for most people. “Oh honey” means “oh you are so innocent :/ that’s really sweet, I don’t want to make you feel bad by explaining reality to you”. They were kinda being nice to you in their way.

I’m more nice because I think people should know reality:

Most jobs are so easily replaceable and have so little protections that if you start citing laws and taking sick leave like it’s rightfully yours, you’ll be fired a bit later for “unrelated” reasons.

Thus while you are right that you would be able to get your sick leave by communicating the law, you will not really get them because you’ll be out of work in a few weeks. If you want to keep your job, you don’t communicate the law and don’t take your sick leave.

Btw, unionize to prevent all this.

I mean the only thing it does is if you’re a minute late, you might as well go get a coffee and sit down in a park and be 59 minutes late.

When I call my doctor and tell them I have covid, I get a doctor’s note sent to me/my employer automatically without having to expose anyone

I’m just confused because they already must have had a lot of money. How much you need?

Don’t remember, sorry

Am on e/os/

Xposed is just an API which is provided by the LSPosed Magisk module.

idk where I got it from, but it’s called “Universal SafetyNet Fix” by kdrag0n

Yeah but I mean if your bank would offer their app through F-Droid as an addition to Google Play, there is no reason to assume the app suddenly got less secure because of that.

But, there’s no difference in security between using a different storefront? The difference in security depends on the app itself, not where it was downloaded from.

Indeed, I already bypass SafetyNet and Play integrity with some kind of xposed module, I don’t expect this to change.

Semi-unrelated question: I’ve watched Star Trek Voyager with my gf, she doesn’t know any other Trek. I don’t think we want to watch TOS, but will probably continue with TNG and DS9 next.

Do you need to know the TOS characters like Kirk, Spock etc before watching their movies, or are they adequately introduced in the movies so you can watch them as someone completely ignorant?

I’ve saved this post for a whole while because I didn’t have the time to really read and think about this. I’m still in the state that I don’t really want to spend very much time reading Wikipedia pages or reading books on the topic or similar.

I’m certainly not in any predetermined camp regarding pro- or anti-anarchism. I have some general thoughts from the basic understanding that I possess about the world in general.

I may ask some questions here in this community to get some more easily to digest and specific info from you people :)

But it’s absolutely clear that the first definition is meant by the person that is being responded to. That is why the clarification is needed. This is not about “most people”, but this specific one person in this specific comment thread. “It doesn’t matter that the edges are curved?” is only said by someone that thinks in the first definition, not in the second.

Well that depends on your definition of curved… If I look at this image from a 3 dimensional coordinate system that includes the sphere, the edges are definitely curved. Of course, if you look at this from the coordinate system “surface of the sphere” then I would agree with you. There are 2 ways to look at this and decide if it is a triangle, and the bro you responded to didn’t understand this and needs it explained.

First thing in any relationship: your own happiness. You’re young, so you probably still have indoctrinated love ideas a la Disney, eternal love, total self sacrifice and all that bullshit. It’s feel-good nonsense.

I repeat: the absolute first priority in any relationship is your own happiness. Does it help anybody that she has chronic pain and is unhappy, and now you’re unhappy too? Obviously not, it would be, from a total utilitarian perspective, a much better situation if she was unhappy and you were happy. Total happiness would have increased.

What this means is: you can only support her as much as you are comfortable with it. Like seriously, what is the alternative? Like you say right now, that you’re so emotionally drained that the relationship ends? Then the situation would be even worse: she wouldn’t get any support at all anymore. What’s better, the little support you can give without sacrificing your own happiness, or no support? Obviously the little support.

Now if that is “enough” for her, that is for her to decide. She might decide that she wants a partner that can support her more. Obviously it’s a huge gamble, there aren’t many people who can deal with a lot of negativity all the time.

Of course, the initial rant about Disney love comes from somewhere. Your thought of being so self-sacrificingly supporting was instilled in you from somewhere. Likely you and people around you think that it’s the “good” thing to do. They would be wrong, but that won’t stop them from giving you shit probably in the way of “oh how could you be so evil and stop supporting your poor poor girlfriend”. This is, in my opinion, abuse. Yes, she has it harder. Is thus your happiness unimportant? Obviously not. But it may be laid out as if it were.

In summary: listen to yourself. Focus on your own happiness. Do only as much as you can. Explain to her why. Tell her everything you think, everything you feel. If she loves you, she won’t want to pull you down with her. And the funny, ironic, unintuitive thing will be, once you focus on yourself and are more happy you will also again be able to support her much better. Take your rest, take a break, don’t support her when it pulls you down. Be assertive about your own needs, even if she has it worse.