• Bonehead@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    The person ran off and raised a stink online because the doctor was a being a fucking dick. If he just politely refused and referred them to another doctor, there would be no story.

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      If he just politely refused and referred them to another doctor, there would be no story.

      But that’s literally what happened. Her response to that was calling the doctor a transphobe and insulting his staff. She was being a dick first.

      Did you even bother to read the article?

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        1 year ago

        I did read the article. Calling her a man is being a dick. Asking for services while being trans is not being a dick.

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          There is no indication in the article that he called her a man before she flew of the handle.

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              1 year ago

              Ok, so you didn’t read the article.

              Yes, he wrote that. As a response to the google review her boyfriend left after the encounter.

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                “I only treat real women” - that’s what French gynaecologist Victor Acharian told a 26-year-old transgender woman he refused to treat in his clinic in the south-west of the country recently.

                The transgender woman, accompanied by her boyfriend, went to a gynaecological appointment when, after minutes of waiting, the secretary told her that the doctor had refused to see her.

                There’s the article…

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                  “I only treat real women” - that’s what French gynaecologist Victor Acharian told a 26-year-old transgender woman he refused to treat in his clinic in the south-west of the country recently.

                  Yes … that’s what we call “editorialized”. He did say that, but not when he refused her treatment, but way later. You need to read the whole thing.

                  What actually happened (as per reading the FULL adticle):

                  • Women enters doctors office

                  • Doctor politley refused her and offers to refer her

                  • Women throws a fit, insults staff

                  • Boyfriend writes google review

                  • Doctor replys with the “I only treat only real women”.

                  This is very different from what the editorialized title and first paraghraph imply, which is

                  • Women enters doctors office

                  • Doctor tells her “I only treat only real women”.

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                    If the story is “editorialized”, then you don’t know exactly what happened just as much as I do. So your interpretation is just that…an interpretation. But we do know that the doctor was a dick about it after the fact, so he likely was a dick about it when it happened.

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        There is never an excuse to be transphobic. The story doesn’t get better for him if she was belligerent first. Let’s keep in mind how upsetting this situation is for her, and then instead of de-escalating he makes it worse.

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          I disagree. That’s a much better story for him. Not even sure if he’s transphobic or just not trained in PC language. If he meant “I only treat biological women”, he’d be correct.

          She was upset and kind of having a bad fucking day, and then instead of de-escalating he makes it worse.

          And maybe he was also having a bad day, probably because of her. Why is this on him in the first place?

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            Calling a trans woman a man is transphobic, and it’s clearly not a matter of training because he knew not to do that before she was rude. He was angry at her for being annoying and wanted to hurt her.

            Why is this on him in the first place?

            1. He’s supposed to be the professional.

            2. There’s never an excuse to be transphobic. Being rude is a mistake. That wasn’t a mistake.

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              But walking into an Doctors office and insulting staff is excusable? He also apologised for it. Seems just like people are very quick to gloss over anything she did.

              They were both being assholes.

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                Transphobia isn’t just annoying. He wasn’t just rude to her. His behavior and words hurt all trans women.

                If he just called her a dumb asshole I wouldn’t even be mad. He could insult her without insulting all trans women.

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                  Right. He used a phrasing that has been deem socially unaccaptable in the western world for less then 10 years after he, for good reason, got angry at someone. Bring out the gallows.

                  Can you seriously just ignore the other side of the story because of that? Because I find her action much more baffeling.

                  “I told her that I’m not competent, but I can guide you. I can refer you to services that can take better care of you.” […] "I thought I was being honest when I said it wasn’t my speciality. I don’t know how to treat them […]

                  That is a very reasonable response he gave at first. Now, what kind of person would insist to be treated by a doctor that just said he’s not qualifed? And then get angry at the doctor for it?

                  It’s so absurd, I’m seriously considering if this whole thing wasn’t just staged, literally real life trolling. Otherwise she’d have to be some kind of super Karen.

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                    It’s considered socially unacceptable because transphobia hurts other trans women, completely unrelated to their little conflict. The collateral damage is the problem.

                    I want you to think about how other trans women are impacted by his comments on trans women in general. He didn’t just retaliate against a rude woman. He hurt us all.

                    He revealed what he really thinks about us.