• kakes@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    Yep, 90+% of any conversation is about how you’re making the other person feel, not about any actual content of the words being said.

    And if anyone just read that and thought “bullshit, that’s stupid and illogical,” I have some bad news for you about how brains work. (Also: I used to think like that too.)

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      1 year ago

      Our ancestors used their mouths to make emotional noises long before they used their mouths to express logical propositions.

      We can never do just one thing with language. Every time we’re making a factual statement, we’re also saying something about our mood, and our relationship to our audience, and so on. That’s just part of what language does.