• billwashere@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    I can usually tell from the rarely looking at me when they speak, having an unusual depth of knowledge on weird facts, or problems with competitive games. My stepson was ASD. That also helped.

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        7 months ago

        I can’t speak for them (obviously), but I hate competing because I feel guilty if I win and a failure if I lose

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          7 months ago

          Fucking hell. Yes. And if we lose and I know I wasn’t giving it 100% focus I feel even worse.

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          7 months ago

          Interesting. I remember intentionally slowing to come second in a race when I was younger.

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          7 months ago

          Oof. I hope you can get over that to some degree. I did and when I realized competitive games are just fun, it’s so much fun I can’t believe it.

          I think the trick is to play against people of the same skill level, or if playing with someone of a different skill level give them or yourself a handicap to make it a good even game. Or, if they’re a different skill level and refuse to allow a handicap to make it even, just don’t play it with them.

          The culturally accepted thing is to handicap oneself clandestinely, to let the other person win sometimes, to make it seem even. But autistics tend to be worse at that kind of thing.