We’ve been in counseling for about a year, and both of us have been getting better in our respective ways. Issue I’m having now is I’m emotionally tapped out and don’t have the same interest or desire for them as I did. I love them very much, but I’m becoming quite indifferent and have been enjoying my time away from them more than with them. Our first years were awesome, but the last two have just been stressful and tiring; it’s been hard to just move past that.
Any advice from those who have been through rough patches and it turned out better?
Is there a particular reason you want to stay together? You could just break up and, after some time for healing, meet someone new. You don’t have to make yourself miserable. There are plenty of people. Many you could fall in love with.
I’ve been told I’m loyal to a fault, so that could have something to do with it
And yeah, completely agree, there are other fish in the sea. I think I just want this relationship to work because we have had such a good time in the beginning and also harder since we are more tied socially and financially now (not a reason to stay, just makes it harder to leave)
Yeah, factors like how old you are and how financially secure you are matter. I wouldn’t recommend staying just because it was good once. Things change. That’s okay.