Hot tip: being your authentic self will attract people who vibe with you.
Also keeping in mind that being your authentic self does not mean making no effort.
Ooh you know that’s right.
Where’s my little freaky weirdo? I can’t find them… 🥺
At all costs present only your true little freaky weirdo self in all social situations, flaws and all. If you pretend to be something else to impress, hide what makes you uniquely you, you might meet someone who is okay but one day one of you will realize that your different enough that it won’t work. On your journey of being the real little freaky Kolanaki, plenty of people will pay you no mind and move right along but one day you’ll meet someone like you. Might not be your little freaky weirdo but will give you confidence to be even truer to your little freaky weirdo self. That cycle may keep going for sometime, which will almost certainly result in some new freaky weirdo friends. And then one day you’ll find your own little freaky weirdo and it is at that point, baby, you’ll be cooking with gas.
It’s rough but not a bad way to phase it, if you try to be someone else you’ll eventually discover there’s problems later on. Most importantly people have to remember to be patient, it’s a slow process with high rewards if you stick to it. 👍