Let me preface by saying, I would love to hear counter points and am fully open to the fact that I could be wrong and totally out of touch. I just want to have some dialogue around something that’s been bothering me in the fediverse.

More and more often I keep hearing people refer to “normies”. I think by referring to other people as “normies”, whether you intend to or not, you inadvertently gatekeep and create an exclusive environment rather than an inclusive one in the fediverse.

If I was not that familiar with the fediverse and decided to check it out and the first thing I read was a comment about “normies”, I would quite honestly be very put off. It totally has a negative connotation and doesn’t even encapsulate any one group. I just read a comment about someone grouping a racist uncle and funny friend into the same category of normie because they aren’t up to date on the fediverse or super tech savvy or whatever.

I don’t want to see any Meta bs in the fediverse. I barely want to see half of the stuff from Reddit in the fediverse. I don’t want to see the same echo chamber I do everywhere else.

I do want to see more users and more perspectives and a larger user base though. I want to see kindness and compassion. I want to talk to people about topics they are interested in. I want to have relevant discussions without it dissolving into some commentary on some unrelated hot topic thing.

I think calling people normies creates a more toxic, exclusive place which I personally came here to avoid.

Just my two cents! I know for most people using the term it isn’t meant to be malicious, but I think it comes off that way.

Love to hear all of your thoughts.

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    Or…

    “Normie” shows a hint of self awareness that the people on this platform aren’t representative of the general public. We’re a bunch of tech weirdos.

    We’re the “abnormies”.

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      I guess that’s something I didn’t consider. I kind of feel like that is still creating an us vs them mentality though…

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        But that’s pretty much what a group of people is? The people who are inside the group and those that are outside. What is the problem with this?

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          You missed to very key letters here. Here’s the original statement with the two key letters highlighted:

          […]creating an us →vs← them mentality though…

          Nobody that I’ve seen here has said that there is no “in” or “out” vis a vis the group. The objection is over those two key letters.

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    A slur always tells you more about the person who uses it than about the person they’re referring to.

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        TERF isn’t a slur, it’s an accurate descriptor.

        Terfs are trans exclusionary. Terfs are on the borders of feminist thought, making them radical (and not in the cool way).

        They only want it to be a slur so they aren’t accurately described as what they are.

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          Actually I think it is quite a stretch to call them feminists in any way. 99% of the time they ally with the far right and many of their leaders advocate against things like contraception and healthcare for women

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            Thats more of the term being overused. Only a vanishing small number of people are terfs.

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          Yeah but “Radical”… TERFS ain’t radical, nor bodacious nor totally tubular dude!

          Accept everyone, that’s the TMNT way!