• Boomkop3@reddthat.com
    637·
    11 months ago

    Now that’s some bad parenting. But you are going to need to do something if you don’t eventually wanna live on the streets. Your mom isn’t going to be there forever, and doing nothing for longer will make it more difficult.

    And if it’s her that’s keeping you down and disfunctional, I can tell you from experience its 1000x better to live alone.

    This sounds like getting a job thrown on your lap, unless you really hate it, go for it. You can always use it for some experience and go for something else later.

    • GlitterInfection@lemmy.worldEnglish
      584·
      11 months ago

      Now that’s some bad parenting.

      I don’t think this counts as parenting, because OP isn’t a child.

      That’s a very fed up roommate being passive aggressive instead of just going through a justified eviction.

      • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
        3033·
        11 months ago

        OP’s mom was responsible for making them a productive, happy, independent person. But she clearly failed, that’s on her

        • PaupersSerenade@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          375·
          11 months ago

          I don’t think anyone knows the green text poster in question, so it could be either honestly. ‘You can lead a horse to water’ and all of that

          • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
            1828·
            11 months ago

            Human children aren’t horses, and I know being a parent is difficult, and that you might fail. And even if you do fail it might not be your fault, but it is still your responsibility.

            You made the kid after all, you put them in the weakest state any human could ever be.

            Plenty of people try to convince themselves otherwise, but you didn’t give that kid a choice in wether they wanted to live

            • PaupersSerenade@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
              244·
              11 months ago

              I’m not comparing children to horses, it’s a proverb. You’ve created a really detailed narrative around a green text (meme) that I don’t really feel like playing along with.

              PS; I am not the mother of this green text, not sure why you’re framing it like that

              • Rodeo@lemmy.ca
                68·
                11 months ago

                Really detailed narrative?

                The only detail necessary is that she has an adult NEET son.

              • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
                15·
                11 months ago

                Sure, let’s expand on your proverb, and use it as a methaphor. The parents are responsible for the horse needing to drink in the first place. Even though they can’t make them drink, it is still their responsibility. When it doesn’t drink, that’s on them: they caused the situation leading to that failure

                • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
                  1·
                  11 months ago

                  Resenting your parents for you being alive is one of the more juvenile hurdles that people tend to get over at some point in their teens. I am a little curious as to what your reasoning is for being unable to move beyond the perceived injustice of incarnation.

                  Your parents were born, just like you were. Is it your grandparents fault that they put that suffering on your parents who passed it on to you? What about their parents? And their parents? Which generation should have been sterilized to dodge your suffering?

                  Depending on your beliefs, your culprit is either Adam or Homo-Erectus. Better still, let’s blame the fish that walked, or the amoeba in the tide pool.

                  It’s time to get over it.

        • krashmo@lemmy.world
          257·
          11 months ago

          Only children think this way. Sure, your parents are supposed to teach you how to do things but if they don’t or if they do a bad job of it you’re still an asshole if you don’t at least try to figure it out for yourself.

          • Boomkop3@reddthat.com
            122·
            11 months ago

            Sometimes you get lucky as a parent and your kids do, sometimes you need to teach them. That’s a risk you take when making kids

        • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
          142·
          11 months ago

          Yea genuinely like I want to become productive but my parents have been so controlling that they’ve stopped me over and over again. Being a NEET at 26 does not happen in a vacuum.

          • Vincent Adultman@lemmy.world
            8·
            11 months ago

            My mom would complain that me or any of my brothers weren’t working, but the minute we got jobs she would say anything for us to quit it. Same thing with college, never a word of positivity, just eventually say “why u going through all of this? Quit”. It’s hard being in this kind of toxic environment, consider that your mom is the one that gave you resources such as confidence, dealing with frustration, etc. Being this ambivalent make you question how insecure you raise a child (check John Bowlby). I am not taking away responsibility from anon, but things are complex and sometimes we need help to see clearer and get out of the house.

          • bane_killgrind@kbin.social
            7·
            11 months ago

            Basically it’s either a shit environment or medical issues that make people turn out this way.

            Plenty of people are successful in spite of those things, it’s not really fair to hold up who got lucky as the standard.

    • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
      271·
      11 months ago

      Please dispatch is a truly terrible first job though.

      They need to be started off with something much more low stakes so that when they inevitably screw it up it isn’t a major issue

  • crazyCat@sh.itjust.works
    471·
    11 months ago

    In case you’re out of the loop like me and need to look it up:

    NEET = This is a term used in the field of education, the acronym stands for; Not in Education, Employment or Training but young people have started to use it as a term for bums/layabouts with no future.

    • caseyweederman@lemmy.ca
      5·
      11 months ago

      Imagine the call goes dead and your manager says “what are you waiting for, log the ticket already” and you’re just

    • ChexMax@lemmy.world
      4·
      11 months ago

      My buddy who worked dispatch said the vast majority of the calls were elderly people who are lonely. We’re in Florida though, so maybe that’s why

  • tory@lemmy.worldEnglish
    18·
    11 months ago

    One wonders how we have a functioning dispatch system. Folks have the most stressful phone conversations you could imagine nonstop for their entire workday. Mistakes are documented publically and may quite literally cost lives. It is extremely likely that you will develop trauma, so much so that counseling is free and integrated into the job. The rules are rigid, and you are subject to initial and ongoing randomized drug tests.

    Total compensation: ~ 23$/hr

  • kite@lemmy.world
    9·
    11 months ago

    Where in the world are you able to have your mom “sign you up” to be a dispatcher?! To work for our dispatch, you have to apply, have a rigorous background check and a panel-type interview. And then they last less than 3 months because they make all their dispatchers switch from day to night shift and vice versa every two weeks.

    • Osix@lemmy.world
      7·
      11 months ago

      They were probably “promised” the job. Anon will will still need to apply and the state will perform the minimum amount of interviews (they’re legally obligated to) only to miraculously land on a candidate with no experience. Good old fashioned nepotism.

      Most likely this is fiction of a deranged person. Considering every possible situation they might get a job and how to avoid it.

  • PunnyName@lemmy.world
    1213·
    11 months ago

    I’d rather kill myself than work police dispatch.

    Edit: folks, this is a commentary on how dispatch jobs have a higher rate of suicide.

    • norbert@kbin.social
      13·
      11 months ago

      In my city the dispatch handles police/fire/EMS. They’re civilians and it’s a pretty depressing job. The pay isn’t that good but it is with the city so the benefits are great, lots of time off and top-notch insurance.

      • andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works
        11·
        11 months ago

        Let’s hope anon won’t get a major disaster at his watch. I’ve heard many stories about how 911 hotline workers get scarred by this job. You get people literally dying or endangered on the phone and can’t do nothing but forwarding their request to another service.

  • mommykink@lemmy.world
    1330·
    11 months ago

    I’ve never had a hard days work

    And that won’t change as a dispatcher. Just send the State Euthanasia Force, erm. I mean Police for every other call (don’t even pick up the other half), and you should be good.

    • KnowledgeableNip@leminal.space
      282·
      11 months ago

      They’re usually underpaid, understaffed, and overworked. Little training for a job that’s literally life and death.

      Plus most dispatchers help with more than just police calls, they help deliver babies or deal with medical emergencies before EMS can get there

    • Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
      308·
      11 months ago

      Lemmy moment of the day right there. All that’s missing is something about landlords.

    • ahornsirup@sopuli.xyz
      42·
      11 months ago

      You are aware that emergency services dispatch is one of the jobs with the highest suicide rates because they’re basically spending all day/night listening to people in extreme duress, often without the ability to provide life-saving aid in time, and usually without adequate psychological support and access to therapy?