I am 25(M) and never even touched hand of opposite sex, at this point i am kinda sure that im going to be alone in my life, but i just cant get over it. I am ugly and skinny, and as for recent started going bald. Have some heart issues so no heavy physical work. I have no chance. So i wanted to move on from this state of mind, and just focus on work and hobbies. How can i do so? Do you have any advice you can share?
Honestly, from what I’ve seen, shared topics don’t really matter that much! I’ve dated people with whom I’ve had very few shared interests, but we got along well in terms of perspectives, in terms of thinking about things, in terms of values, etc.
It’s not as much the granular minutiae, it’s more about the person as a whole. It’s about really getting to know them, to understand them. I actually think it’s even more interesting when there aren’t as many shared interests as long as philosophical aspects are compatible, as there’s a lot of new information for me to explore! Plus you never know when you’ll learn something you didn’t even know would interest you!
And it applies to the other person as well, my most “uncommon” hobbies frequently generate the most questions. For instance, I like Warhammer 40k lore and painting miniatures. I’ve never once dated someone who was familiar with 40k, but, boy, did they get me talking about it once I started delving into the lore and such!
Enthusiasm and passion are the most potent elements centered around interests, even more than the subject itself!