Critique: You have to be comfortable in your own head whether a relationship works out or not. If you have a decent job and are respectful you’re already better than a lot of guys. Just as guys vary in how they rate a woman, women vary in how they rate a guy. Physical appearance is pretty low in this and most women are at least willing to give a shot to someone who checks other “boxes” in what theyre looking for. One box of that is not having to be your therapist. Yes, part of a relationship is leaning on each other but sharing the load is different to having to be carried. Another box is not feeling “settled for”. It isn’t good for either of you as settling makes one person feel like shit and devalue themself while the other yearns for something else.

Going up and talking to girls is already doing a lot better than many guys. However, only being able to converse about your own interests and hobbies makes things difficult. Finding someone who shares the exact same interests is unlikely and unnecessary to getting along. You need to be willing to listen about other things. It seems that due to age and environment you’ve had trouble finding the right types of people as shallow party girls are far from the only women around but at just 25 I wouldn’t give up hope just yet.