I am 25(M) and never even touched hand of opposite sex, at this point i am kinda sure that im going to be alone in my life, but i just cant get over it. I am ugly and skinny, and as for recent started going bald. Have some heart issues so no heavy physical work. I have no chance. So i wanted to move on from this state of mind, and just focus on work and hobbies. How can i do so? Do you have any advice you can share?
Well, i have a degree in computer science, i like a lot stuff about pc, coding. I also like art in general, i even draw sometimes and want to get better at it.
Go to an art group. If you’re in a city there’s probably several. Stuff like drawing in the park is downright normie of a hobby. You’ll get better and find yourself chatting with people who share an interest
im not that skilled for an art group, maybe sometime in the future, but right now my drawings are childish and its kinda cringe in a way
Kill the cop in your head dude. People sketching in the park aren’t there because they’re good at sketching, they’re there because the park is lovely, sketching is fun, and it’s nice to combine those with other people who like them
I assure you there are plenty of women out there that are into that kind of thing.
But my advice? Focus on the getting better at drawing bit. Hobbies are attractive. Don’t forget that. Work on yourself first.
Yeah, but how to find that kind of women? Most of women i tried to approach are into stuff that i dont like. Finding internet groups that like same stuff? I dunno, isnt that creepy when random dude trying to get acquainted through messaging? A lot of female artist i find are already taken or married. Going to some conventions? Im not sure im ready for that kind of stuff as an introvert
That’s the hard bit. That’s why I emphasize working on yourself and hobbies first. The confidence that comes with that will help.
Don’t make the goal finding a partner. Instead be someone people want to be around. If men are easier to talk to try to work yourself up to finding ways to be around more of them and more often.
Some of them will know women. Putting yourself around more will increase the chances of finding yourself around a women that you can find yourself talking to.
All of this is easier said than done but it can be done.