I am 25(M) and never even touched hand of opposite sex, at this point i am kinda sure that im going to be alone in my life, but i just cant get over it. I am ugly and skinny, and as for recent started going bald. Have some heart issues so no heavy physical work. I have no chance. So i wanted to move on from this state of mind, and just focus on work and hobbies. How can i do so? Do you have any advice you can share?
Pour into yourself as you would a genuine lover. Encourage your hobbies, and self care. Tell yourself how special and worthy of love and proper care you are, and that’s why you love you and take such good care of you. It will feel awkward at first because we’re never taught to do that, and honestly, that’s where everything begins and ends.
OP, I glanced at your profile long enough to read your post from a month ago walking away from a girl at the park. I don’t know where you are or your cultural norms, but I stand by what I said. Also we are just human beings like you.
im trying to, but whole world just keep noticing how lonely i am, when i take a walk i see happy couples on the street, when i driving a car i keep hearing music about love and ect. And all these reminders messes with my thoughts.
I mean you’re focused on what you don’t have when the universe keeps trying to bring it to you, and you refuse it. It sounds like in some un/conscious way, you feel unworthy. Please find videos on Jung shadow work, the part of ourselves, good, bad, indifferent that we hide from ourselves because we think it’s not ok. But it’s okay! We all have challenges, things we like about ourselves and things we don’t. When we see it, we can address it.